Romancedoesnothavetofizzleout(失败)inlong-termrelationshipsandprogressintoacompanionship/friendship-typeloveanewstudyhasfound.Romanticlovecanlastalifetimeandleadtohappierhealthier 1 .
"Manybelievethat 2 loveisthesameaspassionate(多情的)love"saidleadresearcherBiancaP.AcevedoPhDthenatStonyBrookUniversity(currentlyatUniversityofCaliforniaSantaBarbara)."Itisn't.Romanticlovehastheintensityengagementandsexualchemistrythatpassionatelovehasminustheobsessivecomponent(过度成分).Passionateorobsessiveloveincludes 3 ofuncertaintyandanxiety.Thiskindoflove 4 drivetheshorterrelationshipsbutnotthelongerones."
Thesefindings 5 intheMarchissueofReviewofGeneralPsychologypublishedbytheAmericanPsychologicalAssociation.
Acevedoandco-researcherArthurAronPhDreviewed25studieswith6070individualsinshort-andlong-termrelationshipsto 6 whetherromanticloveisassociatedwithmoresatisfaction.Todeterminethisthey 7 therelationshipsineachofthestudiesasromanticpassionate(romanticwithobsession)orfriendship-likeloveandcategorizedthemaslong-orshort-term.
Theresearcherslookedat17short-termrelationshipstudieswhichincluded18-to23-year-oldcollegestudentswhowere 8 datingormarriedwiththeaveragerelationshiplastinglessthanfouryears.Theyalso 9 at10long-termrelationshipstudiesincludingmiddle-agedcoupleswhoweretypicallymarried10yearsormore.Twoofthe 10 ncludedbothlong-andshort-termrelationshipsinwhichitwaspossibletodistinguishthetwosamples.
Thereviewfoundthatthosewhoreportedgreaterromanticloveweremore 11 inboththeshort-andlong-termrelationships.Companion-likelovewasonlymoderately 12 withsatisfactioninbothshort-andlong-termrelationships.Andthosewhoreportedgreaterpassionateloveintheirrelationshipsweremoresatisfiedintheshortterm 13 tothelongterm.
Coupleswhoreportedmoresatisfactionintheirrelationshipsalso 14 beinghappierandhavinghigherself-esteem.
Feelingthatapartneris"thereforyou" 15 oragoodrelationshipAcevedosaidandfaci